I chose to read this book because I’ve always been interested in psychological perspectives and business. I’m very familiar with John Gray, and I knew with his name on the book, I was sure to learn something.
Work with Me is an insightful book that explores gender intelligence, a subject that is fairly new in our society. We have, for so long, learned to believe that men and women are equal–especially in the workplace. However, this fairly new way of working together forgets to address one very important issue: equal doesn’t always mean the same. While women have gotten closer to achieving equal value in the workplace, women have had to climb up a male-dominated ladder, where each rung represents a specific obstacle such as male-created workplace policies, feelings of exclusions, differences of communication, etc. This issue is so real that very successful professionals have left or threatened to leave very high-paying positions for lesser pay in order to simply exist in a gender-friendly environment where each person feels like a valued team member. There were several examples of this throughout the book where a simple misunderstanding was someone’s last straw. Some were able to work through their differences and learn they were actually on the same page, while others had to transform their lives in order to feel comfortable. It’s interesting that, although women now make up nearly half of the workforce, these types of issues have yet to really be brought to the table in way that many professionals can understand.
In this book, both Gray and Annis define and discuss gender intelligence by illustrating the eight gender blind spots. The blind spots include questions like Are women too emotional? Or, Do men have to walk on eggshells with women? Throughout the book are many insightful explanations of each of these differences presented from a scientific/biological perspective as well as statistics from thousands of surveys and credible sources.
The second part of the Work with Me introduces new ways to bridge the gap between both sides. Although men and women have differences, Work with Me encourages people to embrace these differences and use them as complimentary assets rather than flaws. By increasing gender intelligence and learning how to better understand our different-but-equals, we will form stronger professional relationships which will ultimately lead to overall success for the entire team.
This book was slightly heavy reading, but worth the effort as I walked away with greater insight of the opposite sex. Although this book’s primary focus is the workplace, there are also a few helpful examples that apply to other areas of personal life such as relationships and parenting.
I highly recommend this book for many HR professionals or any managers of business teams, as well as professionals (both men and women) who would like to learn how to work more effectively with the opposite sex. Just increasing your gender intelligence from knowledge and insight from this book will likely prevent you from either getting offended or offending someone else by misinterpreting actions or communication styles. I would rate this book 5 stars and I suggest that they (Annis and Gray) consider developing a workplace training program, based on this book, for businesses to help bring gender intelligence to the workplace.
Also, I LOVE the way that the cover feels!
About the Authors:
Barbara Annis, founder and CEO of Barbara Annis & Associates, Inc., is a world-renowned expert on Gender Intelligence and inclusive leadership, advocating the value and practice of Gender Intelligence in over sixty Fortune 500 companies, ten governments, and numerous organizations across the globe. She is also the author of Same Words, Different Language and coauthor, with Michael Gurian, of Leadership and the Sexes.
John Gray has more than thirty years of experience as a relationship therapist. He is the author of many books in the self-help genre, including the critically acclaimed number one New York Times bestseller Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. A popular keynote speaker for international organizations and Fortune 500 companies, John is the founder of Mars Venus Coaching. John has appeared on Oprah, The Today Show, Good Morning America, and The View, and has been featured in Time, Forbes, USA Today, TV Guide and People magazines. John lives in northern California with his wife of twenty-six years, Bonnie. They have three grown daughters and three grandchildren.
Note: I received a complimentary Advanced Reader’s copy of this book from GoodReads First Reads program and was not required to write this review.